Life Lessons from a Handy Man

Dad and son learning to fix somethingHandy people are few and far between. I’m not talking about handymen – people you hire to fix things around the house – but actual HANDY people. Which brings me to this afternoon when my husband walked upstairs with a sawzall (reciprocating saw) to cut a hole in the bathroom wall, and later our bedroom ceiling. The bathtub hadn’t been draining and I asked him to use some Draino before his family came this week. And here we are, 6 hours later, cutting holes in walls and ceilings. 

This scenario has a couple of lessons.

Embrace the handy man aspects of the people in our lives and learn from them. I don’t need a man to do things for me but it sure is nice to have one that can remove a load bearing wall when I want an open floor plan. In our first house, we removed almost every wall, replaced every single window and door, and built a 2-story, wrap-around deck on a hill. We did it all ourselves and it was invaluable. I’d never done anything like that before and I learned so much.

As a couple, we’ve learned we thrive when we build together and even today, we build things to reconnect. 

Secondly, people who can see the inner workings of things are rare nowadays. It’s easier to hire someone, take it in to be fixed, or even replace the broken object. But knowing how to fix things is priceless.
Dad and son building
My dad insisted that I be able to rotate my tires (and therefore change my own tires if I had a flat) and change my oil before I could drive. I don’t have an innate ability to understand how mechanical things work but I appreciate those who do. 
So, when my husband walked upstairs with full intentions to start cutting holes after 5 hours of troubleshooting, watching YouTube videos and numerous phone calls with his dad, I didn’t even bat an eye. I may regret it later but I trust him.

This man has taken our son to Home Depot workshops every Saturday (until they stopped offering them), given him the toolbox his dad gave him as a child and includes him in every fix that he can safely participate in. Our son had his last two birthday parties AT Home Depot. He will not stay out of his toolbox and his changing table is an actual work bench that he can use in his garage when he gets older. 

Dad and son at Home Depot class

We want him to understand how things work and the importance of knowing how to fix them. 

His first car will be a classic that we all work on together. My husband jokes that poverty is a great motivator and that is why he knows everything he knows but it’s also because his dad took the time to teach him when he was younger. I believe that anyone can instill these skills in their children, even if they learn them along side them. 
So why was the tub not draining? Turns out our son had been losing LEGO people down the drain when his LEGO ship sank in the shower. When my husband found them, my son’s response was “There should’ve been a lady!”